XFP - FAQ
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Questions about this website
What is Xtreme Fetish Party?
XFP is not for everybody. XFP is an online community for people who
are actively involved or curious about alternative lifestyles such as
safe sane and consensual BDSM, leather, M/s, fetish and other lifestyle
choices. XFP is also a live nightclub event that takes place semi-annually
in South Florida. XFP has a more hardcore, anything-goes fetish theme
than its sister site Alter Ego.
What is the purpose of this website?
This website was designed to bring people together and to help promote
a fetish community where like-minded fetish friends can meet each other
for dating, friendships and more. Just as importantly, it was designed
to inform partygoers about upcoming events.
How is XFP different than other kink-themed dating sites?
XFP is similar in many respects to other kinky online dating sites,
but what sets XFP apart is that we are the only site to offer a members-only
hardcore fetish party where anything goes. Meet your fetish friends
online, and then meet them in person at the party for fetishy fun and
Is this website really free?
Yes. You must register as a member of the site, but registration is
free. If you would like to upgrade additional features, you may opt
for a paid account.
How do I get full features on the site?
For full connectivity and access to all features and areas of the site,
we recommend a platinum
XFP seems too hardcore for my tastes. Is there a more glam-oriented
fetish site / party that I can explore?
Yes. Like we said, XFP is not for everyone, but there are alternatives.
Please visit our sister site, Alter
Ego, home of the world-famous and super-glamorous monthly Fetish
User Accounts & Photos
What do I need to sign up?
Just some basic information about you and your interests as they relate
to fetish, and 2-3 photos of yourself involved in fetish or bdsm play
or wearing bdsm / fetish clothing that you can upload. The photos must
be of you, not of anyone else, and must be in keeping with the theme
of the website. Signup is quick, painless, and fun.
You must be at least 18 years old to participate on the XFP website.
Can other members see my personal information?
Members will see your nickname, hair color, eye color, city, and fetish
interests. Members cannot see sensitive personal information like
your first and last name, email, your phone number or your address.
This information is collected for our personal records so that we
can get in touch with you and verify your account if necessary.
Is my email secure?
We will never share or sell any of your personal information with
a third party. We may send you our weekly email newsletter
that has important information about upcoming parties and special sales.
If you do not wish to receive our newsletter, simply click the link
at the bottom of the newsletter to unsubscribe and you will be removed
from our email lists.
Do I have to upload photos?
Yes. You have to upload 2-3 photos of yourself involved in fetish
/ bdsm play or dressed in clothing related to fetish / bdsm. Your
account will not be activated until this criteria has been met and
approved. All active members of the site have approved photos so we
strictly require all new members to meet this standard to be on equal
ground with existing members. Members who sign up accounts and do not
upload photos will eventually have their pending profiles fall off
and be deleted.
What are the photo guidelines?
XFP requires that the photos be bdsm or fetish in nature to be in keeping
with the theme of the XFP website. After you have uploaded 2-3 photos
and they have been approved, you are allowed to upload vanilla (non-fetish)
photos of yourself, graphics, friends, or images of your fantasies.
Just upload carefully because how you're seen is how you are represented
Since this is a private members-only website, the usual rules do not
apply. With XFP, you are allowed to be as hardcore and as extreme as
you like. In fact, we encourage it. Nothing is too extreme and nothing
is too shocking.
Members who fail to meet photo criteria will be notified by email and
encouraged to try again. Members who continually fail to upload pics
in theme will eventually have their pending profiles fall off and be
Please do NOT upload photos of children or photos with children in
them regardless of the context.
Can I upload more than 2-3 photos?
Right now you can upload as many photos as you like. We encourage you
to upload many as long as they are all different and interesting.
Can I just upload photos of my cock?
A simple picture of your cock does not meet our criteria for our fetish
theme. We don't care how big it is. However, if there is a chastity
device, bondage, CBT, massive multiple piercings or something kinky
and creative going on, that's different. That's more what we're looking
for - but a simple cock shot with nothing else going on isn't going
to cut it!
I uploaded a photo but I don't see it on the site. What gives?
Please note that uploaded photos will not display on the site until
they are approved. There will be a message confirming that the photo
has been successfully uploaded. There is no need to upload a photo more
How long does it take to get my account approved?
After you have filled out a registration and uploaded a photo, please
allow about 3-4 days for us to approve your photos and activate your
account to allow you unrestricted access to the site. We do this personally
by hand to assure the quality and content of our site and members.
It does take a bit of time to get to everyone's profiles, however
sometimes profiles are approved the same day. If there is a problem
with your account you will be notified by email.
If you have waited more than 4 days, your account is still not activated,
and you have not heard from us, please send an email to firstname.lastname@example.org.
How do I sign up?
here to sign up a new account.
Something weird has happened. What do I do?
Don't panic. Please send your best description of the problem to email@example.com
and we will try to get it sorted.
I would like to have my account deleted. What do I do?
Please send an email to firstname.lastname@example.org
and ask to be deleted. Please let us know why if possible so that we
can improve our services for everyone in the future.
I am having trouble logging in or have forgotten my password. What
do I do?
here and enter your email address to have your password resent.
If you are still having problems, please send an email to email@example.com.
What is Fetish Factory?
Fetish Factory is a 6,000+ sq. ft. retail clothing store located in
Fort Lauderdale, FL with the most comprehensive fetish inventory you
will find anywhere under one roof. We are a single, independently-owned
mom n' pop store under the same ownership since the beginning. If you
are in the area, please come in and see what Fetish Factory is all about.
Fetish Factory is the only official store where you are able to purchase
tickets to XFP and Alter Ego fetish party events.
How do I contact Fetish Factory?
You can call Fetish Factory at 954-563-5777 or email firstname.lastname@example.org.
Fetish Factory is located at 855 E. Oakland Park Blvd, Fort Lauderdale,
What are Fetish Factory's store hours?
Fetish Factory's showroom is open M-Sat 11am-9pm, Sun Noon-6pm. Office
is open weekdays 11am-7pm. Fetish Factory is closed on Christmas,
Thanksgiving, Independence Day, Easter, New Years Day and Memorial
Day. FF is occasionally closed for two days in early November or early
June for store inventory.
The Fetish Factory online
store is open 24 hours a day, 7 days a week. Customer service for
online orders is available weekdays from 11am-7pm. Expedited shipping
How do I get a job with Fetish Factory?
Please contact email@example.com
or drop by the store to fill out a job application. Fetish Factory is
always looking to hire great people.
I am a vendor. How do I wholesale to Fetish Factory?
We at Fetish Factory pride ourselves as Florida's leader in fetish
inventory and we are always looking for great, new merchandise. Please
to make an appointment. We do have limited space so we pick our merchandise
XFP Live Events
Who attends Xtreme Fetish Party live events?
XFP live events are not for everybody. Our parties cater to those actively
involved or interested in the bdsm and fetish lifestyles, scene players,
kinky swingers and the like. XFP events have no rules when it comes
to what you can and cannot do. You can be as nasty as you like, or you
may choose to hang back and observe the party and its players from afar.
What is an XFP live event like?
XFP live events are for the truly hardcore players and those members
of the bdsm and fetish community who want to find their own limits
in a safe, sane & consensual environment. Nothing is too shocking.
Nothing is too extreme. It is a cross-section of society and everyone
has their own story. The curious come to mingle with the experienced.
Masters and Mistresses strut their stuff with their slaves. Kinky swingers
get it on. Fetishists make the scene to have their deepest, darkest
fantasies fulfilled. Still, others just like to be the fly on the
wall and watch what goes on.
Is XFP a bdsm night?
Yes, but it's more than just that. Our crowd walks the line somewhere
between a leather/bdsm crowd, a fetish crowd, and a swingers crowd.
This party can be pretty much whatever you want it to be.
Is XFP a swingers night?
No, but there is definitely a contingency of kinky swingers that like
to attend our events.
Do you have a dungeon at the party?
Yes. Our live events are intimate affairs but we do have a lot of equipment
that is free to use. We transform an intimate nightclub space into a
full-scale dungeon. We encourage you to explore the space of the club
and feel free to use whatever equipment you like as long as you don't
monopolize any single piece of equipment for the night.
Is there sex at the XFP events?
Yes, different types of sex are allowed and do take place at our events
between consenting adults, but of course sex is not required. Our events
are only as extreme as you want them to be.
We hold our members-only live events at private clubs with on-premise
swingers and full-nudity licensing so everything is perfectly legal.
Our parties are members-only and all attendees are required to sign
a waiver as they enter the door saying that they understand what the
party is about, it is a lifestyle choice, and that they are not offended
by the adult nature of the party.
Safe, sane and consensual is the rule.
How often are live events held?
to host many events a year usually depends on venue availability instead
of interest, as interest for this sort of event is always high. At
most, we host about 3-4 events per year, and at least 2-3.
Where are live events held?
Venues are announced to members only and are not known publicly. Events
are held at private venues near Fort Lauderdale and easily accessible
Where can I learn more about the Xtreme Fetish Party live events?
Visit the Xtreme Fetish
Party website for all the latest information about upcoming events.
Invitations & Tickets
Can anyone attend an XFP live event?
No. Our events are for registered members of the XFP site only. XFP
members are allowed to sponsor one guest if they
How do I get invited to an XFP live event?
After your registration process has been approved, you will be automatically
invited by email whenever a new live event has been scheduled. Please
RSVP to the event. Tickets will then be made available for purchase
by RSVP'd members through the Fetish Factory showroom and online store.
Can I see who else is going to the event?
Yes. Visit the RSVP list for any scheduled event to see the list of
all members who have RSVP'd to attend. You can then link to their profiles
to learn more about them and their interests. You can even drop them
a line, talk some flirty smack, and get yourself into trouble before
the event is even underway!
How do I purchase tickets to the Xtreme Fetish Party live event?
Tickets are available through the Fetish Factory store. Your member
account will be accessed by a sales rep to check your RSVP status.
After your RSVP has been verified, we can sell you a ticket.
How much do tickets cost?
Cost of tickets and availability vary. Please check the event info
Tickets are only good for the party for which they are specifically
purchased and are non-refundable. Even if you have a ticket, you may
not be admitted if you do not comply with our strict dress
Can I get VIP?
We do not have a VIP at our XFP live events. If you would like to purchase
a bottle from the club at an XFP event, this may be arranged with the
bartender or staff of the club. This may not be available at all events.
Can I bring a guest to the XFP live event?
Registered members with approved accounts are allowed to sponsor one
guest but must purchase a full-price guest ticket in addition to their
Guest tickets may only be purchased in the store by the registered
member. Guests must also arrive at the club with the registered member
in order to be admitted. Guests who arrive separately will not be admitted.
It is cheaper to buy a member ticket and free to sign up for XFP.
Be sure to advise your guest that we would prefer that they register
a free XFP account and attend our event as a member from the start
rather than attend as a guest and pay more for admission.
My friend attended once as a guest but hasn't registered an account
on XFP yet. Can I just bring them as a guest again?
No. Guests are allowed to attend one party when sponsored by an approved
member. This will give guests a chance to see what XFP is all about
and decide whether XFP is right for them. If they would like to attend
again, they must register to the XFP site and attend as a member. We
want them to be a part of our community. Tell them to register and get
Fetish Dress Code
What is the fetish dress code?
You have to dress the part to get in. This generally means dressing
sexy, but in a kinky way. Latex, vinyl, leather, corsets and fishnets
are all excellent options.
If this is your first time going to a fetish party, you may feel a
bit odd before you get to the club, but believe us when we say that
the more wild you dress, the more at home you will feel once you step
in the door of the party. A good rule of thumb is to dress to reflect
your fantasies and desires. This honest energy will communicate positively
to others at the event.
What if I don't own fetish clothes?
If you have a bit to spend, come into Fetish Factory and check out
the inventory. Fetish Factory sells everything you could ever need.
If you are flat broke, consider borrowing some clothes from a friend
or getting creative. Some of the best fetish outfits ever seen at our
parties were made at home.
A vanilla exception to our dress code is to wear a tuxedo, but this
is not recommended. The wilder you dress the better, and once you are
inside the party you will understand why.
What is the minimum I have to do as far as dressing up to get in?
If you ask this question, you miss the point of our
party. The wilder you dress the better. Still, the minimum
for admission would probably be black vinyl pants and a fishnet
shirt. But you can be more creative than that, right?
What sort of things are not allowed?
Jeans, sneakers, regular clubwear, and all-black streetwear are not
allowed. If you don't dress the part, you will remain on the outside
Is nudity allowed?
Yes. Our events are held at venues that have license for full nudity
so everything is legal. Please remember that nudity is still illegal outside the club in the parking lot, so bring a cover-up if you are
an exhibitionist and plan to take it all off when you get into the
What if I don't want to dress up?
You won't get in. Even if you purchased a ticket in advance, you still
have to dress the part to get in the door. Our people at the door will
tell you to go home, change your clothes and try again.
Can't I just slide them $100 at the door and just get in without having
to dress up?
Absolutely not. Heavy-handed techniques like this may work on South
Beach, but at our parties, you will never get into the door by trying
to bribe the dress code person. They will be very offended, you will
feel like an ass, and they will ask you to leave.
How do I view the party galleries?
Members who attend XFP live events will have full access to the galleries
of all parties that they attended through the XFP website. Platinum
members have access to all galleries regardless of their attendance.
How do I get my photo taken at a party?
Authorized photographers wear photo passes at the parties. Go up to
any photographer and let them know that you would like to have your
picture taken. They will be happy to take your photo.
What if I don't want my picture taken at a party?
That's no problem. Just put your hand up to say "stop" and
our photographers will be sure to not take your picture. If they have
already taken your photo, simply ask them to delete the photo (they
all use digital cameras) and they will be happy to do so.
My photo is up on the party gallery and I would like it deleted. What
do I do?
Right-click and save the photo (Please do NOT change the name of
the photo - we need that info to find and remove it!) and attach it
email to Glenn at firstname.lastname@example.org
with a request to delete and a short explanation. We will be happy
to remove your photo. If you have a special concern, please
call Glenn at 954-563-5777.